Motivate Your Child by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN

Posted By Callie Domingues on Jan 31, 2015 | 0 comments


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I have been asked to read and review a new book that has come onto the market in regards to raising children and being a parent that strives to parent the heart of the child. What is heart parenting, you may be asking…a wonderful Christian based approach to teaching and training your child. This book for me, well, it was revolutionary.

The latest book is called, Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told. This book is published by Thomas Nelson Publishing and written by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN founders of the National Center for Biblical Parenting And Biblical Parenting University.

I have to be honest. I have started this review well over twenty times. I have written the words, then I have deleted them. I have thought about what I needed to write, then I have not written them. I have come to my computer to begin, then I have walked away. I have been so influenced, overwhelmed, changed by this book. I pray that I can adequately express that in this review.

I got this book knowing that I was to read it and then write my review for it. I have done this numerous times in the past and this time didn’t seem to be any different. Until I needed to actually sit down and complete the review. This is why I have waited so long to get it done.

The words are in there, but they are big, mighty, important.

I had hoped it was a book that would just point me in the direction I wanted my kids to go. I thought that this book would help me get my kids to do as they were told. I thought I knew what this book was all about. But I was totally wrong.

This book, when approached with a willing heart, will drastically change you as a parent. While reading this book I have been convicted, I have been ashamed, I have been encouraged, and I have been amazingly blessed.

I have often heard the term “heart parenting” but until this book, I truly didn’t understand exactly how I personally could parent my kids hearts.

The way that Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller RN, BSN wrote this book has opened my eyes to reaching the heart of my children rather than just trying to fix the outward appearance that everyone can see. That is the truest way I can explain “heart parenting”. As I read more, the lightbulb began to glow a lot brighter for me. My Biblically based approach wasn’t really a Biblical approach at all. I was using the (unintentional) approach that “God was not pleased and they needed to correct their behavior”. Instead of the, “let’s fix this situation because it is the right thing to do” approach.

What I Have Learned

I have learned more than I would admit to anyone (well, I guess I just did, didn’t I?) and have realized that I have not been parenting the way God would like me to parent. I have often felt sad when I have had to discipline my kids, not because of the having to discipline part, but because I often wondered if I was doing it the way God would truly want me to do it. By reading this book, I have found out some very important things about being a parent, and here I thought I was doing well after almost 14 years . . .

  • To Parent as God Intended, I Must Get on the Right Track.
    • This parenting thing is incredibly hard. The responsibility is
      heavy. I was thinking that I was doing pretty well, then I got to the point
      that my heart hasn’t been on the right track. I was going to God in my
      times on frustration, anger, and dispair. When I should be going to Him in
      every moment.
      Just like every other moment in my day to day living, where I try to hand
      over the trivial and the gigantic, this parenting thing, well, I totally need Him in
      every moment, every single one. Therefore, more prayer time with God,
      more yearning for Him, more listening to Him, this will in turn help me
      be a better mama.
  • I Need a Plan.
    • Not just any plan though, God’s plan.
      If anyone has a clue about being a good parent, He surely
      knows more about it than I do. And the only way I’m going to be able to
      get on a good plan, is if I am in contant prayer with God. He knows the
      plan already, I may only be able to see a teeny, tiny piece of the
      plan, but there is one and I need to be doing everything I’m supposed
      to so that it can unfold as God intends.
  • Look at the Heart, Not Just the Actions.
    • My human side (the flesh) wants the world to see well behaved
      children, my heart (my spirit) wants God to be pleased with me in all I
      do, especailly directing my children to Him. This realization has had a
      drastic effect on how I am parenting my children now. I have always
      wanted my kids to “know” God and to be on the right path to meet Him.
      But this approach to fix the heart has changed how I even look at my
      kids. Their actions are simple reflections of their heart. So, dig
      deeper mama, figure out the issue of the heart, gently lead them in the
      direction so that God can do marvelous works in them.
  • Diligence is a Must.
    • This heart parenting is not a do once and move on idea. This is
      a daily approach to impart on these young hearts the blessing that they
      are, the amazing gift they are, the part they play in the grand scheme
      of life. This diligence will allow them to grow confidantly in life. It
      will allow them to accept no less than God’s best for them. It will
      allow God to work fully on their hearts and hopefully lead them down
      the path He has already laid out for them. By my diligence, may God be
      highlighted. Less Mama, More God. This is only accomplished by
      diligence. Deuteronomy 6, living it out daily.

Why This Book is Important

There are so, so many books available for parents. Just go to any local book store and there will be a “Parenting Section”. This alone proves that there is a need for good parenting books. And this is why this book, Motivate Your Child, is so very important. Parents don’t need another book about behavior modification. They need this book, that will allow them to work on the heart, and that will, in turn, correct the behavior.

This book is based on the Bible. What better book is there in the world that has such amazing instruction?
None.

Each area that is discussed in this book has so many Bible verses as reference. It has made me look at this heart parenting in a whole new way. Again, I have to admit, that I had no idea how thoughly God laid out His directions for us. My book (as the picture shows) is now well highlighted and marked with numerous page tabs. I was even afraid to put the highlighter and tabs away for fear of missing another nugget of goodness.

The written Word is a blessing in and of itself, but when broken down and applied to simple matters like parenting, well, let’s just say that God is truly an amazing God. I have been beyond blessed to read the Bible verses that Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller used to gently remind me that God has a plan for us and all we have to do is read it and follow it to the best of our abillities. Here are a few I highlighted that remind me just loving, good, and gracious our God really is:

  • (Attitude) Philippians 2:5 says, “Your attitude should be the same od that of Christ Jesus.”
  • (Consequences) Romans 5:3-4 says, “suffering produces perserverence; perserverence, character; and character hope.”
  • (Conscience) Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform any longer tot he pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test
    and approve what God’s will is, his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
  • (Compassion) Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider other better than yourselves. Each of you should look
    not only to your own intrests, but also to the intrests of others.”
    Also, Romans 12:10 says, “Honor one another above yourselves.”
  • (God’s Plan)  Deuteronomy 6:6-9 says,  “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you
    sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and
    when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on
    your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your
    gates.”

Nothing that is written in this book is based on how the world believes you should parent. The world views parenting as a season to “get though”. Just rough it out and then the kids will move out and you won’t have to worry about them any longer. A sweet reminder that the world is fraught with sin, and a sinful nature is within reach at any given moment. Chose your moments wisely. The Bible, which is the living word of God, says that children are a heritage (Psalm 127:3) from the Lord. They are special and His plans are already laid out for them (Jeremiah 29:11).

I encourage you to get this book. It will impact your life as a parent in ways that you would not believe. I still do not feel that I have adequately expressed how important this book is for parents. God has weaved His way through every page and I am so pleased that I was chosen to read this book and then be able to bring it to you, dear reader. The encouragement is peppered throughout the entire book, down to the very last line.

Prayerfully I have written these words, and prayerfully I hope you are blessed by this review and that God will lay it upon your heart to seek out this book. That it too will touch your heart and in turn will bless you and your precious babes, no matter their age. This book is wonderful for parents that have not yet been blessed with babes and those that are well into the teenage years.

I want to thank the authors for their words and how their words have been such a blessing to me. I am now “heart parenting” not just “parenting”.

In His Grace.

 


Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”